When you put your hand up, like when you were a child to answer the teachers question, there is a moment of hesitation and yet excitement that you know the answer. The trick is to teach yourself to trust your insight – your inner voice – and to allow that hand to flow up to be counted, noted and heard.
There is beauty in all things that you have to give in the world and we wish for all those on your planet to do so in their way. Some ways may be frowned upon, some ways are viewed as negative – any momentum is better than none at all.
When you know something is the right thing for you to do – yet are unsure how it is going to be received – how do you push past the doubts and concerns re judgment and rise up anyway?
What makes the difference for you in staying where you feel safe – compared to knowing where you are meant to be that involves change?
Universal Perspective: Lesson Ten: Positive Forward Momentum: Section C: Activity 2
Please ponder question before continuing
At the time when I am to respond to this question, I have had some challenges where I have had to step up to the plate and be heard, and both times it was when I was confronting hierarchy and authority which as a nurse, there is a certain time and place. The interesting thing is that although they both had a similar theme, the egomind of each authority person I was dealing with left a very different feel afterwards, especially as I was comparing on both over the days on reflection. Essentially they occurred three days apart and both in a work environment.
I have been a nurse for well over 30 years, and most of the time I have worked in acute settings where the potential for incidence can be quite high so I am not unused to challenging situations. 99% of the time, the workforce that I am in, generally works very well as a team to ensure the health and well-being of our patients that we are caring for at the time.
The first incident, involved a very unwell man who by all intents and purposes should have been placed in a high level of care post operatively rather than be considered to return back to his ward of origin. Everyone agreed, except one person who essentially had the last say. The patient had been within the environment that I work with – a post anaesthetic care unit (recovery) – for three hours. His condition appeared to be worsening rather than getting better. I insisted on being a voice for all and decided to have a conversation with the ‘last-say- person’ whom I have known for years and admire but today was not his day *small laugh*. I questioned his rationale and identified for him the many reasons I have for this questioning. To cut a long story short, some heated words were said and he reluctantly agreed to take this patient. Although I am usually okay with confrontation, I am not in the habit of having harsh words and drawing a line with my colleagues whom I do enjoy working with for many years past. I was shaky with emotion, however was truly supported by many including other medical staff.
This particular doctor did not apologise for his behavior, in fact he came to me not soon afterwards, confronting me with my behavior. I smiled, nodded and continued to be professional even though I was mildly disappointed with him continuing on like he was. No apologies were made however we are behaving fine professionally.
I knew and had received validation for the correctness of my professional judgment call but it left a bad feeling for a few days afterwards.
Then a few days later, a similar situation occurred where in assessing the situation – and the Senior doctors response, I took over the care of a patient who was reacting to a medication. I was giving ‘strong suggestions’ to the other doctor in the room, as his boss was continuing with a procedure and I was giving instructions to other nurses in the room. The incident was corrected quickly as a team, and all was well with the patient. Soon after I approached the Senior doctor, apologizing for my bossy behavior during the crisis and his response was – ‘We all have a job to do, it was absolutely fine’ and he was very good about it. I smiled and was grateful for that and it felt like I was receiving a compliment for the actions I had done not only for the second scenario but also the first.
Now, it would have been very easy for me to step back and not do what was right. In fact, less senior nurses who may be less confident may not have done what I did for the benefit of the patients and the environment that I was working in. Is that right or wrong? I am not here to judge others, just reflect on my own actions. Situations are the way they are due to the players that are involved. Did I like what I did?- well it certainly did not feel good – however the outcome and the feedback I did receive did make me feel as though I was justified in my actions. Personally staying safe and quiet, in this instance, may not have been safe for many other things thereafter if I had not responded the way I did.
Would I do it again – without a doubt – yes – would I be as disquieted about as I still am now? Maybe not as much, hopefully we all learn to push through that which keeps us safe to ensure a good outcome for all concerned. It is not always easy to step up and out to be heard and seen, but sometimes we need to do so to ensure that the greatest potential and outcome is shared by all – or almost all. The difference for me to act or not is deciding if I can create a better outcome and growth potential, and a learning experience for the soul and human combined or I learn more by remaining where I am all safe , quiet and sound *smiles*. My question is – in reading both scenarios and that was your parent, brother, sister, family member – would you want me to speak out?
Yes… you would.
See – there is the difference…..
Cheron and Phoenix Paton.